NEW PORCH PASSES ISSUED

Hello beauties,

So there are some new contenders on the porch. Remember, a 'contender' is a potential long term partner. As opposed to a 'booty call', which is a one night stand or 'servicing agreement', a regular sex partner, who is not monogamous. The first contender is named Paul. Paul is not my typical guy. I am a nonconformist rebel and he works for corp America and holds a government office. I mean when he picked me up Saturday night in a Crown Victoria, I was appalled. I have learned to keep my mouth shut and not put down a guy's car. So after I get in the car, he says, "I drive this car because I work part time for LA County."
I was like, "Is this a cop car?"

He says, "It can be." He pulls down the passenger visor and cop lights turn on. The car also had a walkie talkie. He took me to a nice restaurant in Santa Monica that I had never been to called Anisette. It was very charming and he suggested I order my own appetizer. Ding, ding, ding...Bonus points. We may have a Provider/Protector in the house. Our conversation was deep and intellectual. I haven't had that for a long time and it was nice. He was humble and asking me questions about myself. He insisted we get two desserts. More bonus points! He even stood up, when I got up to go to the bathroom. That was old school and very charming!

After dinner, I wasn't ready to go home so I consulted the Urban Daddy app on my IPhone. They should have an Urban Momma app! The Urban Daddy said we should go to Urth Cafe in Beverly Hills. But I suggested we go to the Shangri La hotel right around the corner. We got a table and had no service for 20 minutes. When we finally got our beverages, our waitress felt so badly for making us wait so long, that she said the drinks were on the house. Nice! There was more heartfelt and meaningful conversation about the economy, politics and family.

When he took me home, he asked if I wanted company walking my dog and I said, "yes". Pat Allen says to say 'Yes, Please and Thank you' to men unless what they are offering is immoral, illegal or unethical. We had a lovely walk and I can tell he was tickled by my dog's joie de vivre. He also was charmed by how emotionally entangled I was with my dog. My dog certainly liked him, which is always a good sign. At the end of the night, he leaned in to kiss me and I just allowed a peck on the lips. Thank Gawd he didn't try to stick his tongue in my mouth. He sent me a "thank you" text the next day, which is so appreciated. I responded back, of course, that was Sunday. Today is Wednesday and he texted me today, but didn't ask me out. If he was waiting for me to ask him out, he will have to wait until hell freezes over.

He is preppy, smart, classy and funny. I am not sure he is sexy or man enough for me though. I am a "rage against the machine" type of gal, so that fact that he is so mainstream is a bit of a turn off. But I am going to remain open minded. I would love to have him as a friend, but sometimes men are too hurt to do that if I reject him romantically. I would definitely go out with him a few more times. How important is someone's world view? Can someone still be a nonconformist if they work for corporate America or the government? I do want to be inspired by what my husband does, but maybe there is something else about him, that I don't know yet that will inspire me. I will wait and keep you girls posted.

Tomorrow I am going out with another new guy on the porch. It is our second date. Our first date was a walk around the Penmar golf course. More on him later...

Have a blissful night,

Goddess Girl