NO LAST NAME?!

Hello There, Pretty Girls!

You will not believe the latest with Hot Lawyer Guy. He called me on Monday night and I didn't call him back. So he texted me on Monday. In other words, "fade to black" wasn't working. So I sent him an email saying, "I have decided to become exclusive with one of the guys, I have been casually dating for the past year." He then emails me, begging me to give him one more date. I don't respond. So he texts me asking me if I got his email. So girls, he is chasing big time, way more than he did before. We all want what we can't have! It was kinda sexy that he was being so persistent. It showed he had good 'Penile Thrust Quotient', you know, male, testosterone laden sex drive. So I agreed to go on another date.

Then he texted me, "Can you talk?" Hours later at 10:30 pm, I responded that I could indeed talk. We had a conversation that he kept trying to steer toward sex. I have only known this guy for about 5 hours in person and he has not engaged me in any meaningful conversation. I found it a bit disconcerting, but I went along with it. So today he sends me some sexual texts. Now there's a difference between sexual and flirty texts. I don't exactly know where the line is drawn, but it's definitely there! Once again, I good naturedly went along with it. But when he texted, "I can't wait to see you and I can feel your lips, babe." I texted, "What's your last name?" He simply refused to tell me!

Now, I have known this guy for about two months. We have had three dates, several phone calls and many texts. I was a fool not to get his last name before the first date!! But when I asked him for his last name, he texts, "There is no reason for it. I not married nor do I have a girlfriend. I was stalked and I need to trust you." He needs to trust me? He is looking out for his safety? Last time I checked, I was the girl. Once again he is battling for the skirt, by putting his safety and comfort above mine. What has happened to the world? Aren't women the weaker, fairer sex who men want to provide for and PROTECT? Ladies, when there are two women or two men in the relationship, there can be no romance, just competition.

We are both vying for our safety and comfort. He is not cherishing my feelings over his. I said, "I just tried to end our relationship. You really think I am going to stalk you?" And he replies, "I was stalked. Try to understand. Why is it so important to you?" I respond back, "You have every right not to give me your last name. Thank you for your interest. I don't want to date anyone who thinks there's 'no reason' to give me their last name. Please don't contact me again." So of course, he calls me because men love the chase. He calls and doesn't leave a message. I call him back and say, "The most important thing to me is authenticity, integrity and transparency. Not telling me who you are is a disastrous way to start a friendship, business or romantic. As a woman, I need to feel safe. If you are on the internet looking for a potential spouse, your last name is part of what you are presenting." Of course, he doesn't respond. My friends think he is completely off base, creepy, and probably married. Who knows?

Allison Armstrong one of my mentors and the creator of 'Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women' says that there's no lack of men especially in LA, where there's 12 million people. We are not in a finding game, looking desperately for the One. Rather, we are in a sorting game. And the number one tool to sort through men is integrity. Ask yourself, "Do I trust him?". If the answer is "yes", then keep dating him. If the answer is "no", then cut your losses and move on. No guy should get more than three dates for you to determine this level of trust. Keep going on those dates, ladies. Don't give up. Churn em and burn em. There are plenty of men. We have plenty of time. Do not buy into the scarcity mentality. The good men are not all taken. There are 1,000s of them out there. They are looking for that special someone just like you. Every pot has a lid. So remember your three P's, persistence, patience and passivity. I am going out tomorrow night with a gazillionaire who owns a Private jet. He is also on a spiritual path. I am praying there is some chemistry. I will keep you posted. Until then,Keep plugging away after your heart's desire!

Love and smiles,

Goddess Girl